How to Get Rid of Risk According to a Physician
Human existence is as dangerous as it is, but this past year they are different. For many people, the pressure of the epidemic brought anxiety, coping strategies, and desires. An important change of the year in recognizing collective social justice, too, encouraged internal thinking and change for many. Dealing with our pain, and our right, is a dangerous and important task if we are to grow as individuals and as a society. Fortunately, there is room for all of this: treatment. In a recent study by Very Well Mind, 90% of people reported that they believed that seeking mental health support was a sign of strength.
I have always promised my patients that the danger is within power. In fact, preaching the benefits of personal risk is one of my main programs as a psychotherapist. I believe that our soft spots are also our strength. I have seen firsthand, the biggest change that can happen when someone feels secure enough to say and share their deepest hopes, shame, and fears. It is usually that easy. Being honest about difficult things can lead to unexpected and strong results.
And still. No one could emotionally prepare for the obstacles presented this year. While 2020 may be behind us, most of us are still shocked by its impact.
"I've lost my job," Erica * told me. Erica was forced to move out of her studio partner apartment; he found himself in an economically depressed state and dependent on him who had worked his entire adult life to avoid it. Thoughts of dehydration, restless sleep, and decreased appetite gripped; he began treatment for the first time and began a course of antidepressant medication to stabilize his mood. "It was a dark time. Actually. We didn't have much natural sunlight, let alone a literal place."
I believe that our soft spots are also our strength.
To Erica's surprise, however, a new depth was revealed in her relationship; he learned to rely on his partner in ways he had never imagined before. Encouraged to lose his job, he began taking online classes to do the job he had always intended to do. “I feel very different now,” she explains. "I still preferred all that did not happen. But I have found that I can be more carefree and adaptable. And my partner is more knowledgeable and willing to be a rock in times of stress than I was to give him credit for."
I can't help but remember Carl Jung, who said: “Find out what the person is most afraid of and where they will improve next,” which is basically a poetic way of saying that the hardest things to do. "Erica discovered her previously untouched parts that she never knew she would live in.
Risk can be a vague concept that you can put out because of its very specific meaning: Quality or state of exposure to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, physically or emotionally. As humans, we have a tendency to be self-centered, and we do not enjoy doing things that are emotionally or physically dangerous. Dealing with the injury, after all, is often embarrassing, because we feel overwhelmed and overwhelmed. Many psychotherapists agree that shame is one of the most difficult emotions to deal with. Michael Lewis, author of the book Shame: The Exposed Self, once wrote: “The shame of the shy person is a desire to hide or disappear ... It is a traumatic event that leads to ongoing moral turmoil, mental confusion. and inability to speak ... weight loss as if disappearing from someone else's eye. The emotional state is so intense that people are trying to get it out. "
We might argue that any form of self-defense is simply an attempt to escape embarrassment. Thus, this risky business venture — no matter how profitable — often creates a dense fog that many people choose to shut down and avoid. How can you stop packing bottles and passing?
Putting out our fears. Ebabuka. Feeling nervous. Staying here-and-now. Tolerance of discomfort. Learning our ability to comfort ourselves and to live. We can use these skills very effectively if we are in a controlled environment and are among the people who support us, not judge. This can be achieved by cultivating healthy friendships — and that is where psychotherapy comes into play.
Psychologist Brene Brown, who sparked public outrage about being at risk about a decade ago because of her contagious TED talk and best-selling book Daring Greatly, once wrote: "Being at risk is like being naked on stage and hoping to be applauded rather than laughed." With proper, effective treatment, you can hear the soothing sound of the applause — not the toxic laughter. When this sense of well-being is healed, it is easier to proclaim our truth to others in the world. The idea is not that others will always accept us as our therapist does. But that we are more comfortable standing in our truth regardless of the reaction.
I have had the privilege of seeing significant growth in my patients whenever they decide for themselves, the time was right to come out with a long-hidden practice, belief, or feeling. Next, I do my best to create those important conditions mentioned above for adoption. Then, together, we look at whatever they put out. The greater the force of the inserted object gradually diminished as the patient and I stared straight into the face. Whenever these times happen to patients, it sounds like I'm watching their emotional strength grow faster, Popeye's style.
Respecting the fall experience is as important as celebrating the return to the top. Doing this is a daily routine.